Advocating for yourself in your relationships and prioritizing your own needs doesn't have to feel gross.
(It might even help you be a better friend or partner!)
We all bump into mental obstacles that keep us from speaking up clearly and confidently about our wants, needs, or opinions. Use this quiz to pinpoint your biggest barrier, and get a mini guidebook to help you work through it and take that first big step forward - all so you can start speaking up and getting what you need, without all the butterflies and anxiety.
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To start things off, what's your name? *

 
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For each question below, imagine you’re in the scenario described. Make it feel as real as you can in your mind, and choose the answer that resonates with you the most.

(As a heads up, the answer choices for each question will probably all feel very similar, but consider the nuances of each, and choose the one that feels truest to you. When in doubt, go with your gut!)

 
You and your best friend are planning a vacation together. She suggests a destination (somewhere she says she’s been dying to go forever!) ...but turns out it’s waaaaay outside your comfort zone. (Like, completely.) Still, you find yourself agreeing to it.

Which of these best describes why? *


 
Your significant other has been having a rough time at work lately, and vents to you regularly. You love feeling helpful and supportive, but the negativity is starting to feel heavy and contagious. Still, you say nothing, and continue listening and empathizing (even as it pulls you down).

Which of these best describes why? *


 
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You're planning a special get-together with close friends. You’re hoping for a budget-friendly activity, but before you know it, you all have dinner reservations at the priciest restaurant in town plus a hotel room for that night. It's WAY out of your spending comfort zone, but somehow you wind up going along and ignoring that pit in your stomach.

Which of these best describes why? *


 
Your partner is a bold, outspoken person who tends to dominate the decision-making in your relationship. You're aware of this pattern, and while you do make an effort to assert yourself here and there, you find yourself quietly settling into the role of 'passenger' in that relationship (even as you harbor some quiet resentment about it). 

Which of these best describes why? *


 
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You’ve felt for a while that you're ready for a raise/promotion at work, but you recognize the writing on the wall that it won't just be handed to you. You'd love to stay with this company, but you've outgrown your current role. Still, you continue to avoid broaching the subject with your boss. 

Which of these best describes why? *


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Turns out, your biggest obstacle? 
Conflict avoidance.

You reeeally dislike conflict, and you'll avoid it all costs.
Sound about right? Not to worry! The mini guidebook below will help you reshape the way you think about conflict, and take your first meaningful step forward toward advocating for yourself with more clarity & fewer anxious butterflies.
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Turns out, the thing you struggle with most?
People-pleasing.

It just feels so good to be helpful, and to make the people around you happy -- even when it means 'taking one for the team.'

Sound about right? (You're definitely not alone.) The mini guidebook below will help you start to work through your people-pleasing tendencies, and take your first meaningful step forward toward advocating for yourself with more clarity & less guilt.
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Turns out, your biggest obstacle? 
Self-minimizing.

You often second-guess your own ideas, or allow others' thoughts and opinions to hold more weight than your own. 

Sound about right? Not to worry! The mini guidebook below will help you start feeling more clear and confident about your own ideas, and take your first meaningful step forward toward advocating for yourself with more clarity & less guilt.
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Turns out, the thing you struggle with most? 
Self-understanding.

Especially when you're under pressure, you often struggle to pinpoint exactly what it is that you want or need - which makes it extra tough to confidently ask for those things. 

Sound about right? Not to worry! The mini guidebook below will help you get crystal clear on the things you want for yourself, and take your first meaningful step forward toward pursuing those things with more clarity & fewer anxious butterflies.
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